Life is on its way to the new normal, whatever that is going to be.
We can shop in our favourite shops once more. Soon we will be able to eat in our favourite restaurants, so long as we social distance.
Just the phrase ‘social distance' makes my energy drop. We, as human beings, are not designed to be lone creatures. We are social by nature, if fact most animals are and we share behaviours such as the need to belong, develop our own pecking order and have our own territory.
Humans share mirror neurons and unconsciously match each other’s emotions. A lack of social interaction causes all sorts of mental and physical health problems. As Aristotle said “Man, is by nature a social animal.”
This week I heard the phrase ‘physical distancing’ and thought how much more gentle this sounded. Words are powerful. Our minds believe the stories we tell ourselves. If we are saying or thinking about social distancing, we are telling ourselves that we are being denied a basic need. This will have a negative effect on our mood.
Let’s start to be kinder to ourselves and think carefully about the words we use. Think about the lift we get when someone pays us a compliment, or the discomfort when you realise you’ve just said something you shouldn’t have said!
Words and the energy they carry are dynamic, they change the atmosphere and can cause joy or pain. So much pain we cause ourselves and others could be avoided if we were to be more mindful of our words.
Here’s a challenge... spend a day really noticing how you speak to yourself, without judging. Notice not only the words you say or think, but also your tone. Try to notice the emotions linked to your words.
Finally ask yourself these three questions; Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
So, as we begin to engage with the community once more, remember the power of words. We may need to be physically apart b,ut we can still be social at a distance.
We also need to remember that coming out of lockdown can be just as stressful as going into it, but we found ways to cope. It is perfectly normal to feel unsure at this time. We all face uncertainty and challenge and are moving on the best we can.
If we bear that in mind as we venture out it may help us be more tolerant of others who could be feeling nervous. Friendly words and gestures can change the energy of any situation and can make an enormous difference to how you and others react. If we all try to be a little more mindful of our speech, then the new normal just may be better than the old.
Take care, Much love